When a relationship is just emerging, it's too early to talk about love. But girls are impatient natures, they want to know what a man feels as soon as possible. This is evidenced by subtle hints, non-verbal signals, unusual behavior. One scientific study showed that for many people it is very difficult to determine the favor of a potential partner. It is all our personal prejudices and experiences that are to blame. They can interfere with how we interpret the words, actions, or romantic intentions of another person. We can both overestimate and underestimate someone's interest. The good news is that love usually doesn't know how to hide. By these signs, you will guess that a man is not indifferent to you.
Facial expression
When two people interested in dating communicate, the first thing they pay attention to is facial expressions and facial expressions. For example, dilated pupils clearly indicate emotional arousal and interest in your person. Look a man in the eyes, in them you will find the main answer to your question. If, in addition, your boyfriend raises his eyebrows, licks his lips nervously, or smiles with all 32 teeth, then you get new confirmation of his sympathy. In addition, scientists have found that increased testosterone levels increase saliva production. 
Language of the body
Non-verbal signals are also very eloquent. It's time to pay attention to your companion's legs. When a man spreads his knees wide while sitting on a chair, this indicates his genuine interest in you. This is evidenced by any other open position of the body, for example, wide hand gestures. So a person with the help of unconscious gestures shows his openness and accessibility. Wide hand gestures are also commonly associated with an attempt to seduce the interlocutor. This is how a man demonstrates his power, strength and ambition. During your interactions, pay attention to the placement of the legs. Are your feet pointing in your direction all the time? This is a clear sign of interest. 
Gaze
Another clear hallmark of sensory interest is the desire to get closer to you all the time. This is manifested in a special tilt of the head or a gaze during a conversation. The power of eye contact cannot be overestimated. So, scientists have proved that holding a gaze by people of the opposite sex forms mutual sympathy. Therefore, a man is not in vain trying to drill you with his eyes. His efforts will be rewarded if he accidentally touches your hand at the same time. 
desire to listen
When a gentleman is interested in you, he will listen to your monologue with rapture, without being distracted, and even more so without yawning. His willingness to listen is the primary means by which he will win you over. A man is trying with all his might to show you how dear you are to him. This is also indicated by his phenomenal ability to remember everything that you told him about earlier. He listened to you and left in his memory the smallest details of the conversation, he reacted vividly to your remarks and appreciated everything that you said. All these tiny episodes that a man keeps like the apple of his eye indicate his feelings. 
compliments
There are compliments on duty and those that come from the heart. When a man is in love with you, he looks for more opportunities to say nice words. Compliments and praise are the perfect affordable option for a veiled declaration of love. 
He asks you personal questions
In addition to facial expressions, gestures and non-verbal signals, a man betrays his sympathy with frequent personal questions addressed to the one that he cares about. Questions directed towards your person allow him not only to get to know you better, but also to form an invisible connection with you. In addition, this way of conducting a dialogue is a proven option, relieving stress and awkwardness hanging in the air. 
He makes joint plans
A clear sign that a man likes you is the desire to make joint plans with you. He invites you to visit relatives for the weekend or plans to go to a hockey game. Now he cannot imagine his usual activities without you. In addition, the partner is interested in your opinion on each proposed idea and will definitely take it into account. He will not insist if you are against hockey or are not yet ready to get acquainted with his relatives. But the fact remains that you are already a part of his life. However, in this case, there is one caveat. As a recent scientific study revealed, a man who makes plans for the near future (for example, for the evening) views you as easy prey. If the event is planned in advance, then he is not only sexually interested in you. It is also a good sign that calls or messages are not too early or too late. 
Meeting Friends and Family Members
Our next fact on this list is perhaps too obvious. A man will never introduce his beloved to family members or friends if he does not consider this connection with the expectation of the future. If he invites you to his house, it means that he seeks to fully reveal himself to you, to show himself from the most unexpected side. But if he introduces you to his family, then you have managed to stand on the same level with his loved ones. Now, to move forward, you need to demonstrate social communication skills and be able to please the environment of the chosen one. If good relations with his relatives and friends are not established in this way, you risk losing this man. 
Care
Another clear sign of sympathy is hidden under care. Your gentleman is polite, courteous, he does you favors and literally blows dust off you. He hates when you are cold or uncomfortable. And this means that you will be provided with coffee in bed during your life together. He will give way to you when you want to watch a melodrama, not a football match. Men are ready to make concessions to ladies only from the bottom of their hearts, and not because the rules of etiquette or social stereotypes oblige this. 
He says cute things
For many people, the words "I love you" sound too pathetic. Your boyfriend may show his feelings in different ways. He will tell you how much he missed you, how much he likes you, and how much you mean to him. In addition, he will be concerned about your safety.
Why does a woman fall in love, try to do something for a relationship with a man, develop these relationships, introduce a man to her relatives, dream of a wedding, etc., and a man is indifferent to all this? And why does it happen that when a woman has already “burned out” in relation to a man, he suddenly begins to be active and literally besiege the woman, harassing her with his signs of attention, courtship and proposals for a serious relationship? For more information about the mistakes that women make, read the book. “19 mistakes with men. How to make a man love and respect you. In the same article, we will talk about the most basic mistake. After all, letters describing such situations and questions, when a woman seems to like a man, but he doesn’t do anything special, come to me stably one a week.
So what's the deal? Why do men act like this? Why do they show such indifference to relationships with the woman they like?
There are two main reasons for such situations:
- men's emotions develop much more slowly than women's;
- after a while, a woman’s strong love disappears, she reduces her activity, and finally a man can feel like a hunter. As I wrote in the book “How to fall in love with a man for life and successfully marry?”, it is important for a man to feel stronger, conquer a woman, see her weakness and “save” her, help, etc.
(The third reason, that a woman was mistaken in that a man likes her, I will not describe in this article).
Now in order.
The law of male psychology is as follows. A man matures MUCH slower for a serious relationship than a woman.
If on an example, then the almost standard situation is when:
- The woman thinks that after the first or second meeting, the man has already decided that he likes her, and he will definitely call tomorrow. In fact, a man still thinks, is determined and chooses.
- After the third or fifth date, the woman already believes that they have a serious enough relationship to show her boyfriend to her friends, relatives, etc. The man, on the other hand, thinks that he has only more or less decided that he is ready to date a woman, but he is unpleasantly surprised when he is asked to meet the woman's friends and parents. (Few men like "bridesmaids" in general, and almost everyone dislikes brides ahead of time).
- A woman thinks that a man wants to marry her, and a man only thinks that he is already ready to meet his girlfriend's relatives and friends. He hadn't even begun to think about getting married.
Such a discrepancy in the speed of development of emotions can sometimes cause severe conflicts between a man and a woman and disappointment in a woman in her chosen one.
Yes, this is understandable, if a woman is already choosing a wedding dress, and a man only thinks that he will have a permanent girlfriend or he needs to look for another, then the conflict is inevitable.
What to do? Of course, sometimes a man can and should be pushed to 
the next stage of the relationship, sometimes you can pull, sometimes hit the harder (a joke, of course, but in every joke, as you know, there is some truth). However, the main strategy is as follows.
What does it look like in practice?
If we take the very beginning of a relationship, when a man meets a girl he likes, he takes the initiative and finds out her phone number or where she works. After such a meeting, a woman expects something like the following.
Once a man took the phone, it means that he already likes her. But, firstly, it is not at all necessary that this is so. (Men take the phone for a variety of reasons. Maybe on a bet, maybe develops self-confidence (how to develop confidence, I described in detail in the book "How to become more confident in yourself in 3 months") and courage in dealing with women, maybe a dozen more reasons). Secondly, men rarely call the next day, because men, as I said, are emotional slow-witted.
In order for him to understand that he really likes a girl, he needs not several hours, but several days, and sometimes even more than a week. So, first, don't expect a man to call you back at all.
The rule of communication with men here is very simple. Measure your feelings with the feelings of a man. If a man likes you, and he shows it, then you can also show that you like him. If a man is ready to leave other women and be only with you, then also leave flirting with other men. If a man is in love, then you can also show him that you are in love.
Just do not need to write long letters (SMS messages) about love to your chosen one. A man is arranged differently, and love letters are unlikely to have an impact on him, rather only a negative one. If you really want to write, then write (better to say, not write) what kind of hero he is, what you like about him, how he did something, and you became happy from it. But it's better to tear up love letters.
So, don't fall in love with a man before he falls in love with you. Don't fall in love with a man too quickly. And if the process of love itself is difficult to fully control, then it is quite possible to slow it down and reduce its intensity. (If necessary, of course, but usually necessary).
And again about the initiative. As I already wrote, the second reason that the relationship does not develop, and then the man suddenly begins to show activity, is that the woman ceases to take the initiative.
The law of male psychology here is this:
A man does not want a woman's love just like that. He wants to achieve this love and make his woman happy.
In many ways, I will repeat what I wrote earlier in other articles and above, but repetition is usually very useful.
If you have read my articles and books before, you probably already understood that a man does not need a woman's love as such, just like that. He needs to achieve this love, he needs to somehow help a woman so that she falls in love with him. He needs to do something so that the woman is amazed and understands what a man is a hero and, accordingly, falls in love with him after that.
That is, of course, a man wants a woman's love, but he just doesn't need love. He needs to achieve this love.
Consequently, when a woman falls in love with a man, her stranglehold and initiative towards him weakens. And then, finally, a liberated man sighs deeply and can begin to conquer a woman and act. Well, the fact that this man is no longer interesting to a woman is already his problem. Let him try hard, maybe everything will work out.
In this article, I will not describe in detail the initiative and the smallest details in which it manifests itself. But the main thing that can and should be learned is to give activity to a man, and everything in your relationship will develop much more naturally.
Summing up. If a man did nothing when a woman was in love with him, and then, when she stopped liking him, then he suddenly began a “siege”, then usually the main reason is that a woman does not take into account one of the most important features of the psyche of men - low speed the emergence of emotions and failure to take initiative in a relationship from a woman.
Use this knowledge in relationships with men, and these relationships will become much easier to develop and will be much stronger.
Sincerely, Rashid Kirranov.
Surely you had a relationship when a man began to care for you, came up with interesting dates, showed his feelings. And then he stopped. And then you lost that feeling of falling in love that made your heart beat faster when you were waiting to meet him.
Well, the reality is that men usually feel the same way with women. When the relationship becomes a habit, becomes more predictable, routine, the passion that he had at first disappears.
When a man says he no longer feels in love with you, what he is really saying is, “I used to be attracted to you both physically and emotionally. But now there is no emotional part. Because something in my heart and my head tells me that something is wrong in our relationship, and I don’t know what to do about it.”
When a man asks for time or he moves away from you, the temptation to interfere with this is great, but this can only hurt. Because people run from what runs after them. He will feel that you are forcing intimacy on him and will want to run away.
Instead, if you want to regain emotional attraction and intimacy, heed the following tips:
1. Give him the personal space he needs and give yourself time.
All the energy and attention that you want to throw into saving your relationship, direct it to your own life: your friends, your hobbies, anything that makes you happy.
When you do this, something magical happens. First, you feel in control of the situation because your emotions do not take over. Secondly, men usually cope with their doubts and fears themselves, if they are given time (several hours or days).
2. Shake it to get him interested
Remember that we said that men are attracted and fall in love with novelty and unpredictability? So break up your routine. Come up with new entertainment for your weekend, experiment in bed, finally break into a long-awaited vacation. And if you are constantly together, and the time apart will be your novelty. You can correct it with playful messages to each other.
If you initially attracted him physically and emotionally, then you can return it. Just give him time and space and come up with new ways to keep your relationship fun.
P.S. And if your reaction to these tips is: “Why should I be interested in him? He doesn’t want to - and he doesn’t need to! ”Well, I sympathize with you - leave everything like that and wait until you are left alone. Remember that everyone has difficult times, emotional and psychological, and sometimes we cannot control our feelings. And the most important thing he needs at such moments is understanding and support from you, as well as your desire to show that you care about your relationship.
What does a rooster think when it runs after a hen? If I don’t catch up, I’ll warm up.” Is it rude? Yes. It's a shame? Yes. Does it look like the truth? Yes. Although, like every truth, there are also two sides here: male and female. We will consider the "women's truth".
How to distinguish the serious intentions of a man from the intentions of a "cock" who starts a relationship to fool his head. There are many external signs that reveal the behavior of the "cock" that every woman should know. They are especially striking on first dates. It is very important to pay attention to them until the moment when you have not yet fallen in love, which means that you are not blinded by love and have not embarked on the path of forgiveness or motherly love. Maybe one day you should stop, look around and, without emotions, evaluate your relationship with a man that has just begun?
1. First of all, you need to pay attention to the look of a man. If, surrounded by other women, a man does not look at you, his eyes run from one woman to another and at the same time his gaze does not return to you, this is a bad sign. Studies show that a man in love looks twice as much at the object of his love.
Talk to your man, ask him a question that will require a detailed answer. While looking into his eyes. If he avoids your gaze, turns away, looks through you, he is not yours. The exception here may be that he is embarrassed by your appearance or your facial expressions frankly "contort" him. Therefore, it is very important when preparing for a date to monitor your appearance, facial expressions and behavior. Bright makeup and fiery lips are absolutely out of place. They are good when a woman goes hunting. When a man is "caught", you should not scare him away with bright colors. Make-up should be calm, neat. You can only slightly emphasize facial features that you find attractive. Facial expressions should not be "clownish". No need to goggle your eyes or round your mouth.
Practice in front of a mirror and find a light, slightly enigmatic smile for your face. If the corners of the lips are lowered, “teach” the face to “raise” them. Do not giggle, do not cover your mouth with your hand, do not make sudden movements. All this can be achieved at home, in front of a mirror.
2. Watch the behavior of a man when you are standing with him surrounded by other people. If a man is standing slightly behind you or in front, this may be a sign that he is not very sure of his feelings or simply does not take you seriously. The lover should stand side by side, shoulder to shoulder.
3. A man makes fun of you in front of other people or in a circle of friends, but then calms you down, they say, don’t be offended, I was joking. It's not funny. Consider if it's worth your attention. If her lover does the same with your friend, do not laugh, but rather put him on your “black list” of dishonorable men.
4. When a man asks a woman to change something about her appearance because he allegedly prefers that hair color or a particular bust size, this is a blatant attempt to manipulate you. One request will be followed by another. If you obey, then you can consider that you have lost a man. He will never be yours. However, do you need such a dreamer-egoist?
5. If a man brings his friend on a date, he should be forgotten forever. It is unlikely that he is ready for a serious relationship. In the foreground are his friends. Such a man is the same “rooster” from the joke.
6. If a man bristles at your innocent question about where he went or what he did during the day, this means that he has something to hide. He is not frank with you, because he does not consider you a close person and he does not have any serious plans for you.
7. As soon as a man started talking about money and even more so asked to lend him a certain amount, we immediately forget about him. We don't need gigolos. At the same time, one should not believe in any sentimental stories. He is not alone in this world. He can ask for a loan from others, and certainly not from the woman he is in love with.
8. Your man is rude and impatient with waiters in a restaurant or cafe. This is worth thinking about. It's better to just forget about it.
9. If a man is reluctant to talk about himself and his family, about his plans, then this should alert you. However, if at the same time you already feel love yearning, then remember the female curiosity. Find out as much as you can about his life.
10. A man in love will try to spend a lot of time with you. He is ready to go to the ends of the world, just to see and talk to you for five minutes. If he is constantly busy, finds various excuses to delay meeting you, this should make you think about the seriousness of his feelings, and not look for excuses for him, like, oh, poor, how hard he works.
11. If a man speaks only about himself, if the pronoun “I” predominates in his speech, think about it, is he not from the “daffodils”?
12. Men don't have a very good memory. It's true. But not for lovers. That's really who is unlikely to forget your birthday or the date you met. If a man suffers from forgetfulness, he most likely deleted you from his romantic dreams.
13. You should especially pay attention to the stories of a man about how he spends time without you. If he goes to parties, to other companies or travels, pretend that you are interested in listening to it. To be able to listen to a man is a great art and it needs to be learned. As they say - the ability to listen should already be in the look of a woman. Talk less, nod more. However, at the same time, ask yourself the question: why does he not invite you with him? The answer is obvious.
14. And, of course, pay attention to the attitude towards alcohol. A man will never allow himself too much if a woman is not indifferent to him.
The listed 14 signs are considered in relation to the first contacts with a man. Observe and draw conclusions, is it worth spending time on this man?
