Have you ever noticed how your child rejoices when a particular person comes to visit? Be it your girlfriend or even a colleague. The smile does not leave the baby's face, the eyes sparkle, and the entertaining stories about the guest seem endless. Why it happens? Maybe this person knows a special approach to children? On the one hand, this is true. If you can follow the actions of a person who gets along well with children, then you will better understand not only your child, but also the children of your friends. And this is necessary if you decide to sit with someone else's child. This is where you need the ability to establish contact.
Let's take a look at the whole situation. A smile is the first thing that attracts a child. This, I think, will not raise the slightest doubt. A dissatisfied or insensitive facial expression will scare off not only a child, but also an adult. Therefore, we smile sincerely, no frills. A stretched wide smile can also repel, not attract.
When communicating, try to protect yourself from unpleasant thoughts. Children often feel that we are going through. Therefore, it is unlikely that you will succeed, wearing a mask of benevolence, to deceive a child. No masks! Only sincere kindness and genuine interest will become your first assistants.
The next step is to pay attention to the child. Listen to what he says, praise what he shows you: toys or drawings. Most likely, they will evoke positive emotions in you, so we are not talking about deception. Next, you need to determine what the child is interested in. It is about this that it is worth starting a conversation. It is advisable to translate games into more real things. Many children find this very interesting. How to do it? Very simple! For example, he shows you a drawn tank, plane, soldier. In this case, tell him an entertaining story about the war. Of course, not about the suffering of people, but, for example, about organizing battles, types of troops, etc. Girls, for example, who draw girls in pretty dresses, can be told about how these dresses are made. Naturally, information must be submitted in a language that the child understands. It's not that hard. Over time, you will learn to do this without thinking. This approach can be used in almost any case, you just have to show your imagination.
Oftentimes, children enjoy these kinds of conversations. They will also broaden the child's horizons a little, most importantly, do not forget that you are not conducting a conversation with an adult, this is very important!
So, a smile and an unusual approach to communication is not everything. Be sure to listen to the baby, in no case ignore him. Try to develop topics of conversation that interest him, not just you. After all, a child is already a little man who, like all of us, loves to be listened to and pay increased attention to his remarks. When you realize this, the chances of your child's liking will increase significantly. This will happen by itself. And you don't need any complex strategies.
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Personal and professional qualities of a counselor
How to please children
The first task of the counselor is to please the children. Not a single counselor who does not enjoy the sympathy of children has yet been able to do at least something on the way with his squad. Therefore, approach this problem with increased attention, with maximum responsibility.
First of all, try to figure out what it means to you to like children. Different counselors put a different meaning in it. Since we are all different, then children will like us in different ways. In any case, no matter what you are, you need to endear the children to yourself, to interest yourself.
This problem has its own stages of solution. The first one might be called "make the first impression." There are five key components that make up the first impression of those around you:
1.your appearance,
2.the expression on your face,
5. your gestures.
If you work on each component purposefully, you are guaranteed the success of the "positive experience". Until then, take one piece of advice as an axiom:
* do not dress too brightly on the first day, but also do not be prim.
Ripped jeans and sweatpants, dirty T-shirts and not ironed shirts, slippers on bare feet and greasy hair are strictly prohibited. Anything else of any pleasant shade is permitted.
Second stage: "make a second impression".
Think about what the children might be interested in. For example:
* what interesting things have you been doing in your life?
* what are the abilities and talents?
* why do your friends respect and love you?
* what fun can you tell us about?
* what extraordinary can you teach?
Children will look closely at you, will evaluate you, express judgments and conclusions. I would not like to see such children's conclusions as the result of this evaluative activity. "Come on, he only knows how to command", "You can die with longing with her", "She doesn't even understand jokes." To pass the test of "interestingness", you need to prepare. And therefore, remember everything that you could be interesting to others. You don't need to have any superpowers for this. Children can enjoy themselves without them. You will be no less interesting if you know how to laugh contagiously, read the book "Smok Bellew", collect badges, you can distinguish a dachshund from a chow-chow. Moreover, you can gain the authority of children without having any talents at all, except for one - the ability to wonder and ask. And the most important thing is to listen carefully to your interlocutor. Try without arrogance to admit that you do not know the participants in the Formula 1 race or the leading NBA players, try to say that you have not seen a single episode about the "Black Cloak" and try to ask for an explanation, explain and tell you to be taught ... Children will take patronage and patronage over you, they will respect you.
“Children are the flowers of life,” says folk wisdom. Sometimes these flowers produce smooth and shiny, sweet fruits, and sometimes thorns. For years, parents and teachers have been tricked into raising children, and sometimes the result is zero. It is the desire to learn, disobedience, disrespect that is missing. It can be enumerated for a long time, but at the moment we will consider the problem already.
Reluctance to learn. Where does it come from?
After all, children from birth have zero information, everyone is ready to perceive it in the same way. Although each person has his own intellect, mental abilities, character traits, it is inherent in him to learn and be trainable.
What is really good and what is bad? What is beautiful and what is not? What is good and what is evil? Only by teaching the child correctly, although the concept of "correct" is fundamentally different for each person, can you achieve the desired results in learning. Therefore, in order to bring up the best qualities in a small person, you need to constantly consult with other parents, specialists, and not just use your well-established beliefs.
You need to overcome your pride and teach the child kindness, wisdom, sympathy, guided by outside help. In the post-war times, children were raised with a lozina, but those cruel years have passed, and this does not mean that if you were raised in the old way, then you should do the same with your children.
The ideal of a person is a benevolent, affectionate, loving, ready to help patriot of our majestic country. Otherwise, we will never get out of the list of developing countries. Therefore, it is our real goal to educate a citizen of our country, and not the country that will later be left in search of earnings.
The child acquires knowledge like a sponge that absorbs water. But sooner or later the sponge will dry out on its own, and the knowledge gained will not be enough. To prevent this from happening, you need to constantly replenish the sponge with water, that is, constantly give knowledge and stimulate it. This is the role of, firstly, parents and, of course, teachers.
In order for a child to instill a desire to at least go to school, first of all, and this is no secret, he needs to be liked. And only then it will be possible to talk about successful studies when the child is interested, happily attends all lessons, when they do not punish for a mistake, but stimulate, push to a natural instinct - to learn new things, because a person is inquisitive from birth.
Therefore, how can a child be liked? How to get interested in your subject? This is what our conversation will go on.
Let's say a child comes to school for the first time. This means that in her life the circle of friends has changed, some uncles and aunts have appeared who are forced to do incomprehensible things, a terrible uncle-director who threatens with a finger.
The teacher's task is to understand the child, provide him with support, convey knowledge in an accessible form, help get along with classmates. The list of duties of a primary school teacher is very long, but let us consider the problem of establishing relations between the teacher and the child.
Each girl or boy needs to develop an individual approach. Apparently, have you observed when children hide behind their parents when they meet a stranger, especially when this unfamiliar face tries to pat the child on the head? Imagine: the child was left with a teacher whom he sees for the first time!
An individual approach is to find a common language with the child, i.e. in the first even fifteen seconds to establish contact. To do this, you need to be very friendly and always smile - the child will feel lighter, more free, more relaxed.
1. The first thing I would like to draw your attention to is that when you meet, as mentioned above, you need to smile and be friendly. This will set the child in the right mood: establishing positive contact within the first fifteen seconds. This method is called the “first fifteen second rule”.
But it should be remembered that each child perceives everything in his own way. Some people, seeing a smile, may think that this uncle or aunt is very kind, and may feel too free. This freedom can manifest itself through negative behavior, misconduct, and the like.
That is, we tried to achieve the desired result, which was not to scare the child, but instead achieved something completely different. The child who behaves badly in the lesson, be sure that he is no longer afraid of you and already smiles wider than you yourself.
In order to prevent an unwanted reaction to your sincerity, you need to timely prevent unwanted actions on the part of the child. This is the skill of the teacher, namely, to notice and prevent it in a timely manner. Children need to know that you are friendly, but never tolerate bad behavior. In order to make this clear, sometimes a stern look is enough, and sometimes it is worth raising your voice.
2. Second. Be generous with praise. You need to encourage the child even for the smallest achievements, for a correctly written letter, and the like. But remember the main principle: do not over praise! It is not necessary to praise the child constantly, even when the child has not achieved the desired result. Because of this, he will have a feeling of permissiveness, and the child will stop trying, knowing that he will be praised anyway.
You can also reward with small surprises, however, remember that the child can take this for granted, and then the internal motive for learning will turn into an external one when the child agrees to learn, but only for candy. This must be prevented. There is no need in any way to say that the child will receive gifts for his studies.
Here is an example of the right motivation: “Sunny, you studied well today! In addition to a good mark, you will also receive a small surprise today. Today you showed your knowledge especially well. Clever girl! "
Avoid the following phrase: "Now you will receive a sweet for a good grade every lesson." It is necessary to let the child understand that he will not always receive a gift for a good grade. You need to do this kind of encouragement from time to time. Otherwise, having received a good grade, the child will be disappointed if he does not receive anything.
3. Be sure to motivate the child, you need to say affectionate words to him, for example, "sun", "pearl", "bunny", "dear (oh)", "well done" and the like ... And more, if you pat the child on the head , he will shine with happiness, at home he will tell you how he likes the lessons with you, and the parents will also be happy.
But, as you already know, you need to know when to stop in everything, including praise. Many teachers believe that it is not worth breaking the child's intimate distance (0.5 meters). However, who will regret the child in the lesson, if not you? Who will give such strong motivation?
But be careful! Make sure the child has no views of you. First love most often occurs in children at school age, they even fall in love with teachers. Then it will be very difficult for you to teach this child. But that is another topic.
4. Punishment. First, what is it? It can be physical and moral. None of them is correct from a legal point of view. It is forbidden to shout at a child, let alone beat him. But there must be some levers of influence, if the child behaves badly, does not follow the orders of the teacher!
And the way out is this! Bad behavior is unacceptable when studying. You must first understand why the child behaves this way. Perhaps he is not interested? Perhaps he doesn't respect you? So you need to gain the respect of the child. And in order to achieve this, you need to please him. Then the child will not disturb your behavior in the lesson.
And regarding the failure to fulfill the teacher's tasks, there may be the following reasons:
... the child is slow, absent-minded and does not have time to complete everything;
... the child is sick;
... the child has problems at home;
... the child is not interested, although he respects the teacher;
... the child does not respect the teacher, although he is interested in the subject.
As you can see, some problems need to be clarified with the parents, and some you are able to overcome yourself. If possible, do not meddle in the child's family affairs, so as not to injure him, so that he does not withdraw into himself; however, one can be careful to inquire whether his parents are punishing him at home. Perhaps the child is just expecting to be pitied. Perhaps you are the only one who will do it today. And if you regret him, you will receive the child's trust, and his respect, and interest in your subject.
The child should not be punished (for this you can go to jail), but should be encouraged to study, as described in paragraph 3, to tell different stories from the lives of people who found your subject useful, to tell that it is fashionable, prestigious and vital.
5. Call your child by name. It is very important. A name for a person is the sweetest sound. Convincing to study well without naming children by name is impossible!
And the last thing that can be recommended: sincerely take an interest in your pupil, his life, health, ask about how he spends his free time, what is his hobby, find something in common between you and start creating a miracle that only a teacher can do - to educate an honest, fair, polite, kind citizen who loves his country.
Additional question on the page
What plants must be at home?
It is not news at all that flowers enrich the air with oxygen, make the microclimate in the house much more comfortable, clean the premises from dust, and just delight others. There simply cannot be strict recommendations about which plants should be in the house. Because it depends on their usefulness and your preference.
The variety of indoor flowers is great, but from them one can single out those types that are suitable specifically for specific rooms. Having come to the nursery of ornamental plants, they will help you. Chlorophytum, monstera, spathiphyllum, spurge are suitable for the kitchen. Here the air must be cleaned of combustion products, and the flowers, releasing oxygen, destroy the excess gas. Place a pot of clivia in the smoking area. To get rid of harmful substances clivia, it must be regularly taken out to fresh air. Flowers that do not have a pronounced smell are suitable for the bedroom. Ficus will be the best way to influence your sleep.
Large rooms will be cozy monstera, hibiscus, palm, cypress. Orchids do not require special care and bloom for several months, so they will decorate any room.
Remember, some indoor flowers are dangerous enough. Dieffenbachia juice is dangerous for animals. Plants that release essential substances well, such as rhododendron, citrus and geranium, can cause allergies in children.
For the rest, when choosing colors, be guided only by your own tastes and common sense.
/* ?>Working with children requires a lot of commitment. Parents are sometimes unable to cope with a restive child. And what about a nanny who has just met the baby and must find an approach to the child in a matter of days. After all, the assistant will be able to perform her duties well only when she establishes contact with her pupil. Babysitting in Dnepropetrovsk accessible to many women, but can anyone be able to cope with the basic duties of a helper and pick up the key to the heart of her pupil?
You can find a common language with your child even at the time of the first meeting at a personal interview. What is required for this?
First, prepare thoroughly for meeting your baby. Purchase some kind of toy in advance that will be appropriate for the child's age. You can consult with the parents of the baby and ask them what the baby is interested in at the moment. A small souvenir can endear your child and interest you.
Thirdly, if the child is still silent and gloomy, then try to approach him yourself, sit down next to him, start a dialogue. Offer the baby to read a fairy tale together or play hide and seek.
Fourth, do not be discouraged if the child at the first meeting did not reveal a clear desire to communicate with you. For the second time, the baby will definitely see in you an already familiar aunt and will probably want to get to know better.
Fifth, if you managed to melt the baby's heart and he went to contact you, then you can walk with the baby down the street or be with him on the playground. You will be able to talk with your child about interesting topics, tell him educational stories, as well as tell the kid a lot of interesting things about nature, plants, animals.
Fifth, after you finally get a job as a nanny in Dnepropetrovsk, try to always take into account the opinion of the child and treat him with respect. Show your baby only kindness and affection, try to find a middle ground between strictness and permissiveness.
Parents play a very important role in helping the child find a common language with the nanny. Mom and Dad should help the baby overcome his fears and be able to feel free in the company of the teacher.
Before you look for an effective way to find a common language with your baby, you need to establish contact with the parents. You must win over employers even during the telephone conversation, so that they have a desire to meet with you in person.
Remember that you must have a good-natured and supportive appearance. Choose clothes in a classic style, neutral colors without unnecessary decorative elements, make-up should be discreet, neat hairstyle. Try to smile sweetly and set yourself up for a positive interview outcome. Endear your parents and the child will also reach out to you.
Good nanny will definitely be able to become a real friend, a loyal companion and an irreplaceable helper for the kid. If you can win over your baby, then babysitting will only bring you pleasure. Try to be honest, sincere, and tolerant with your child. The kid should feel protected in you. The child needs to know that he has someone to rely on while mom and dad are not at home.
Of course, the nanny will not be able to replace the parents, but she will not take the last place in the child's life. It is very important that you treat babysitting in Dnepropetrovsk not only as a profitable income, but also get satisfaction from your profession. Remember that children, despite their whims and disobedience, are very vulnerable and sensitive creatures. Only by being guided by love can you achieve great success in raising children. Do not leave the baby unattended, try to diversify his leisure time, conduct educational activities in a playful way, encourage the child for the slightest achievements, and the baby will definitely consider you the best nanny in the whole wide world.
How to please a boy? With age, we understand how relationships are built between people, but in adolescence, when first love comes, it is still not at all clear how a boy can be liked. Many begin to copy the appearance of some famous personalities and try to imitate the manner of movie heroines, but everything looks very feigned and inappropriate. Most boys are interested in how they can spend time with a girl and what to talk about, and not how skillfully she will play someone else's image.
To please a boy, you need to start with appearance, only in this matter you should not try to become the same as most girls at school - it is important to be able to stand out. In order to emphasize your individuality, it is better to choose things of your own style, and not radically change it. Having put on high heels, if before that it was pointless to wear sneakers all the time, there will be a lot of attention, but all of it will be devoted to an inept gait and will take the form of a mockery. Remaining in your image, you need to become a little brighter - blue jeans, when everyone is wearing dark; hair tied up in a ponytail, if everyone goes with it loose.
Well-groomed and style play a lot in the perception of a person and boys, even at a very early age, celebrate girls who have beautifully styled hair, neat clothes and the ability to combine accessories. A stylish haircut, a couple of pieces from the latest collection and comfortable clothes will ensure an attractive appearance. Striving to buy up all fashion boutiques is not relevant, but in choosing an image you need to focus on your age category, because what looks great on twenty-year-old girls is simply ridiculous on an 11-year-old girl.
The next point will be the choice of behavior, since one bright appearance is not enough. It is necessary to draw attention to yourself by actions, for which you do not need to do something extreme or shocking, you should also avoid attracting attention with scandals and antisocial behavior. It is best to show your kindness and cheerful character, and not only in relation to the boy you like, but to everyone around you.
You can try to show your best sides, but you should not completely redo yourself and be next to the guy in a completely different person. Even if you succeed in this, then in case of disappointment, it will be a pity for the colossal efforts spent on creating an illusory image. And you need to be ready for disappointment, because after the boy likes you, you will begin to communicate closer and he may be far from the ideal that yours drew.
How to please a boy at school
The school itself imposes many restrictions on communication and its forms of manifestation, which makes it quite difficult to show sympathy. But at the same time, the presence of mandatory requirements for behavior and joint tasks helps to figure out even how to please a boy who does not like you. In the school process itself, there are many joint activities where you can help someone you like. By participating in productions and showing your talents, you can change the perception of a guy. The main thing to remember is not to wait for attention and to enter into a dialogue with him more, as well as to show yourself, the only trick is to do this exclusively on a business topic. You should not talk openly about your own feelings, if you know that the boy does not like you, it is better to cooperate with him and show restraint. Such a calm approach contributes to the emergence of a sincere interest, the guy at least wants to know how, having interacted for so much time, you do not even feel friendly feelings for him.
It's great if there are additional circles or sections at the school where the guy you like goes - you can sign up there and you will have more common topics and time spent together. Be careful when choosing these activities - the boxing section may not be the best option, but aircraft modeling is quite suitable - and it will be easier to cope and will not cause suspicion about what the girl is doing there. It is optimal that these activities satisfy your interests, or you can choose others (gymnastics, drawing). Usually, all classes are held on the same schedule, which means you will have a total time during breaks and on the way home.
Using lessons to start a relationship is not only not recommended, but also useless, for personal communication, change and time after class are best suited. If you try to attract attention during class, you can seriously spoil the relationship with the teacher, which will affect the entire process of being at school.
You can meet more often during breaks, arrange casual meetings, choose a place in the dining room next to your boyfriend. Such meetings should not look intrusive and make him paranoid, if your class is now in another part of the school, and you are alone with the guy, then you will have to come up with an iron alibi why you need to be here (for example, the need to wait for the teacher - only then really wait for him and ask about something).
If lessons end at the same time, then you can chat on the way home or even ask him for help - bring books, protect you from yard dogs, tell that you are afraid of hooligans in the yard. You can offer to do your homework together, but it's better not to start with this. At the beginning, discuss the assignments at recess a couple of times, perhaps he can explain something to you or you can let him cheat.
It is not advisable to attract attention by appearance at school, but you should not completely forget about it. Even the most boring shape can be made more original by using jewelry or braiding your hair. Everything that is not prohibited by the school charter can be safely used to emphasize your individuality. Even if a rule is set for white shirts, you can choose not a classic one, but with hand embroidery and beads instead of buttons - the main thing is to show your imagination.
How to please a boy at 10
Perhaps the first thoughts on how you can please a boy come exactly at the age of 10. This is the easiest in terms of establishing ordinary friendly communication and the most difficult in the formation of inter-sex interaction, which is explained by the different speed of mental processes. Then, as girls are already beginning to feel sympathy for the guys, to walk with them and to communicate more, boys do not yet feel such a need. Girls already have the very style of communication, less and less want to spend time with friends, and in those moments when communication with girls takes place, I want to discuss the possibility of relationships with guys, find out who likes whom, and share information on improving the image. Boys behave at this time, as before - they spend time with the guys, think girls are boring and do not really notice the difference in gender.
Winning the sympathy of a boy is a difficult task, since all his hobbies are outside the realm of girls. Some often start communicating with older guys, because they are already interested in girls and you can quickly find a common language with them, but not all of those older will agree to communicate with the younger girl. But the situation is not hopeless. Interest at this age must be attracted by being involved in general activities. If you know how to ride a bike or rollerblades cool - you can arrange a competition, if you know an interesting abandoned house, then you can arrange an excursion there.
How to like a boy at 10 years old? You need to show enthusiasm and character, if you are fascinated to look at the boy and nod to his every word, then he will not be interested. It is best to defeat him in some business. To overtake, it is better to pass the test, to climb a tree higher - this will attract his attention at least by the fact that the boy cannot afford to be defeated by a girl. Competitions will help build friendship and strong relationships, especially if after a series of victories you lose to him, and in another area you ask for advice or teach you. For example, you can overtake him on roller skates, and at the same time ask him to teach him how to ride a skateboard, you can better pass the literature and learn to explain math. You cannot constantly win against him, so the guy decreases, and he will find himself a circle of friends where he will look better.
There is no need to tell a 10-year-old guy about his feelings, especially in a romantic manner from melodramatic films - he may not understand this, which pushes many to rather cruel jokes. Try to spend more time where he spends and actively participate in everything that happens. If a crowd of boys are playing snowballs, then it is better to join, and playing for the opposing team - so he will remember you for sure. The worst thing you can do is walk by with a haughty and boring face, showing with your whole appearance how frivolous snowballs are for a girl. He will simply understand that such a person should not be invited with him, but he will always want to see a cheerful and mischievous girl who can have fun on a par with him. And even if he does not yet realize what exactly is happening and does not know what this feeling is called, but you are already becoming special for him.
How to please a boy at 11
By the fifth grade, boys gradually show interest in the opposite sex, begin to notice clear differences. They are still trying to hide it, they still spend a lot of time playing with the guys, but they already notice the girls. At the age of 11, in order to grab attention and arouse the sympathy of a guy, it is necessary to do the same as before - to be together more often and to be involved in common activities. The only difference is that it will take less effort now. Boys at this age already see help with lessons not only as an opportunity to improve their grades, but also a pleasure to talk to. Many ask for help not from excellent pupils, but from pretty girls - study becomes an excuse. In the same way, the genius of mathematics to one can simply indicate the section of the textbook where the necessary topic is explained, and to the other girl he will explain all the changes by some pattern.
In joint games and activities, it is worth starting to be careful - if earlier the attention was perfectly attached to the fact that the girl could defeat him, but now this begins to severely beat self-esteem. For guys, their own prestige in the male environment and among girls becomes important. If a girl surpasses him, then it becomes embarrassing in front of other guys who can start teasing and joking, in addition, the image of the hero is lost in the eyes of the girl. If you play a competitive game together, then try to keep an equal score, you shouldn't lose on purpose - all interest is lost from this, but it becomes irrelevant to win every time. Shift the emphasis from activities to communication.
Starting to feel sympathy for a girl, many try to hide it so carefully that they achieve the opposite feeling. Therefore, before looking for answers on how to please a boy who does not like you, you should properly observe him, perhaps you are his ideal, just to admit this while there is not enough determination and skill. It is important to become your own in the circle of his friends, to establish yourself as an excellent companion - this will not only help to be together more often, but also give a kind of permission to communicate. Guys in this age range are very dependent on the opinions of friends, and if they once look askance and disapprove of some girl, then communication with her will directly affect his reputation. The more you are a friend to all the guys, the better the relationship with the chosen one will develop.
And only after you have become a member of his group of friends and you have excellent relations with everyone there, you can begin to distinguish him from everyone. This can be done by asking his opinion, telling a story, looking at him, you can call him several times to spend time together without everyone else. The attention of a girl who is liked by everyone is very flattering to the guys at this age.
It is possible to like a boy at 11 years old at school if school communication is reduced to a minimum and if there is an opportunity, then make the most of the possibilities of joint creativity. That is, if a presentation is needed from the class, then you need to prepare it together, if you were instructed to prepare a presentation, then ask him to help after lessons. At the lessons themselves, do your studies and do not be distracted, even if a nice guy provokes you. It is important to set boundaries, and the lack of communication in school will motivate him to communicate with you after school.
How to please a 12-year-old boy
At this age, social contacts expand, many begin to try themselves in other activities, in communication with other people. Everything that was previously unknown becomes interesting, there is a great desire to stand out. That is why it is important for a 12-year-old girl not so much to join the team, as it was before, but to learn to stand out favorably from the rest. Boys will notice precisely those who cease to obey the norms of society, the standard systems of upbringing and education, and show their individuality.
If you had unusual hobbies that fade into the background to support common interests, then now is the time to start showing them. Compliance with the tastes and interests of a guy is not so important, now they are already able to perceive you not only as a friend, but also as a girl, so doing gymnastics, making jewelry or painting can give him the opportunity to admire your talents and your differences.
His hobbies can be shared if there is a sincere interest; in all other cases, it is enough to respect his choice and support. If this is a sport, then you can go to competitions with it, watch performances and provide moral support. Also, you can perfectly and imperceptibly support him not only morally - grab a bottle of water or plasters, spare carbines or a map of the area, find out the schedule in advance and other little things will show your location. If this is a scientific activity, then you can show others how proud you are and how you admire his achievements. Guys at this age interact with the world and express themselves through classes, because the more you encourage and delve into his hobbies, the more needed he will feel. Even if you are infinitely far from what is happening, you can say: “and how do you understand all this? I don't understand anything at all. " So an indirect interest is manifested, and the guy begins to tell you more about his business, in addition, he will try to make it as interesting as possible. You don't need to play along with him, and if you don't understand, say so, the guy will try even more.
There is still no need to rush things, the guys just resigned themselves to the fact that girls can be liked, the first couples are starting to take shape. If you hurry up during this period, then the guy may never come up to you, but start walking with a less persistent girl. Remain the person whom he can always call, with whom there is a lot in common and interesting.
How to please a boy at 13
At the age of 13, guys are already ready to take the initiative on their own, and the desire to communicate with girls comes to the fore. At this stage, the girl should begin to act more carefully, because if she continues to drive with the guys in a common company, she risks remaining in their same friend. It's important to start emphasizing your femininity here.
Dresses and skirts should be more common in the wardrobe, the hairstyle should at least periodically be not only comfortable, but also beautiful, graceful shoes and beautiful nails - all these tricks help a guy notice your fragility and generally see the girl.
How to please a 13-year-old boy? It is important to let him know about your sympathy, and now for this it is enough to smile at his appearance, laugh at jokes and listen. Guys like those whom they can make happy, so the more regularly you show him that you are glad to meet you, the more often he will strive for this meeting, and the more he will try to please you.
Unstable, so it is important to praise and support him, so you will become something permanent and resource for him. At the same time, it is important to remember about your condition and do everything possible to overcome your own complexes and keep self-esteem at an adequate level. Trainings or courses, communication with friends, self-improvement classes can help, and sometimes you can even ask a guy to express his opinion about you and cheer you up.
In the image and appearance, it is necessary to focus on a recognizable personality. You can pick up a perfume for yourself so that the guy triggers associations about you even with the smell, you can hum a melody, and then, having heard this song, he will again remember you. It's great to create your own personal traditions - with hot chocolate after class or good morning wishes and a cool picture. The more associative points you build, the better. It is better to postpone extreme experiments with appearance. Of course, with each clip of an alternative group, he will have associative memories of your acid-green hair, black lips and miniskirt, but there are only a few guys who like it in life.
The sphere of interpersonal communication is becoming relevant, therefore it is important to know what the guy is interested in, where he spends his time. It's great if you manage to share his hobbies and support the topic of interest. Your passions may not be the same, but you can look for points where they can be combined. For example, if you like to make jewelry, and he takes pictures, then you can ask him to make a portfolio of your work. If you love to travel, and he loves bicycles, then a joint bike tour is a great idea.
How to please a boy at 14
At the age of 14, girls think that it is necessary to be the best in everything, then the guy will pay attention, but the competitive moments have long given way to originality, naturalness and uniqueness. The most powerful and most difficult thing to do is to be yourself. That is, to laugh at what is funny to you, and not at what all the girls laugh at or exclusively at the guy's jokes. If you are not funny or humor seems offensive, it is important to be able to say something, many guys spoiled by attention overstep the boundaries of what is permissible and they just need a person who will put them in their place and make them try to be better. It is also important to go where you like and when you want to. Sacrifice your own sleep to stay longer at the party where everyone is gathered, provided that training tomorrow will not play into your hands. Guys like those who go their own way, are guided by their own values and do not lend themselves to the manipulation of society.
This is a rather difficult path, requiring stability and confidence, because it is always easier to behave like everyone else, without much hesitation. The danger is that this way the guy will not distinguish you from the others, and you will not live your life.
Your main interest should be your own life - do not impose on the guy, let him be the first to take the initiative, which is important to encourage and show that you are pleased. But you shouldn't run after him yourself, they quickly lose interest in such girls. It is perfectly acceptable to be active after his first few steps, but there should always be more of his actions. Do not tell everything about yourself, let a little mystery and room for his imagination remain, if he knows your schedule, the motives for meeting and refusal, every minute, then the interest gradually subsides and he does not want to explore.
Being yourself and different are quite compatible things - you have different activities and moods. Despite the fact that everyone is pleased when they are praised and welcomed, guys are not interested when a girl is constantly oily sweet. You can be frankly angry, sad, happy, fall into, excitement and - the larger the spectrum you allow yourself to show, the more intrigue and interest you will arouse in the guy.
How to please a pen boy
Communication with boys is largely limited to places of acquaintance, usually a school, sections and general companies, most often courtyards. It is not always convenient to communicate directly, and it happens that not all of the real acquaintances are liked. Social networks, online forums and other Internet spaces open up a lot of opportunities for free pleasant communication and it is important to know a few basic rules in order to please a boy in correspondence.
If you like someone online, then you need to take the first step. It is best to start communication with a question that should provoke further joint discussion, and maybe even action. He should be on the case, write "hello, how are you?" it is simply unacceptable, it is almost impossible to answer something to start communication. To get started, study the guy's page to find out what you can turn to. He goes hiking - you need to advise a good guide, he has a lot of photos - ask permission to use them to illustrate your presentation, and so on.
At the beginning of the correspondence, try to choose long pauses - these are the first two hours after meeting. Then the rules change, everyone has a real life besides the monitor, which makes its own adjustments to virtual communication, so you may not be answered further, because they are objectively busy. For the first time periods of communication, there can often be gaps between phrases, when the first topic is exhausted and the second is not started. Pauses can occur because it is not yet clear what you can talk about with the interlocutor, it is important to throw up new topics for conversation, otherwise everything will remain so.
When communicating, try to be open, of course, you do not need to immediately devote strangers to all personal secrets and give a code from a bank card, but tell some facts about yourself, extensively answer questions, in order to prolong the conversation you need. Also ask him questions, be guided in this by the interlocutor. If he is laconic, then either he does not want to talk about this topic or it is not interesting, choose something else, this is not an interrogation, communication should be easy.
An important point of how to please a penpal boy is literacy and the absence of obscene words. Even if you are going to transform words into an irregular form to add humor, it is better to do it later, and at first you should write everything correctly so that later the interlocutor will understand that you are joking. Politeness, observance of the rules of etiquette is as important as in personal communication. Bragging, trying to appear smarter than he, or cooler than you are, does not cause pleasant emotions in the interlocutor.
It's good to add some reality. You can tell how you are now waiting for the bus, making juice or what you ate for breakfast today. You can share your impressions of a beautiful sunset or a funny puppy. It is especially cool if you accompany such little things that happened during the day with photographs, this helps a person to get involved in your life.
And remember, if any of your messages, even with the most important question, suddenly remained unanswered, this does not mean that the communication is over and you are no longer interesting. Perhaps the guy was distracted, he did not notice the message and is considering the answer. Take your time, get tact and patience - let him resume communication when he is ready.
