I gave birth to my first child alone. My husband was simply not ready to attend the birth, he was too young, and I too, we didn’t know what to expect, and we didn’t even think about it. The second time I was also going to give birth myself, but the Lord decreed differently. The most important thing is that everything is fine with me and Anyuta, and the rest is not important.
I gave birth to Mishanya quickly and easily, and my impressions of the birth were positive. There was no talk of a cesarean a second time, so I was looking forward to this day. I still feel that natural childbirth is still a moment of solitude for a woman. I wanted to hide, listen to myself and concentrate on the process. I didn't want any unnecessary noise and fuss. Therefore, I was a little wary of my husband’s decision to attend the birth. But still I decided, since he wants it, so be it.
At the last moment, I developed complicated gestosis and the doctors, fearing for my life, decided to operate. This was a terrible blow for me, I immediately started calling my husband screaming that I wouldn’t go anywhere without him, and he rushed home from work. There was not much thought about whether he wanted to witness the operation (my husband is afraid of blood), he decided to go to the end. Looking ahead, I will say that I did not regret that he was next to us at that moment.
And now in more detail. I repeat, Seryoga is terrified of the sight of blood and other things that can be found in the operating room. But, nevertheless, he understood that such a chance came once in a lifetime, that he had to go. He didn't see anything bad there. This is what I looked like on the operating table. (see photo 1)
As you can see, everything is covered, the operating room is small and cozy, at the time of the cut Seryoga was in the corridor. They called him when Anyuta was born, they put her on my chest, measured her, swaddled her, and gave him the bundle.
What does the husband need with him for childbirth: a surgical suit (sold at the pharmacy), clean socks and washable slippers, a T-shirt and shorts. Someone is putting on a tracksuit. HIV analysis and fluorography over the past year. (see photo 2)
He will go into the emergency room half an hour before the start of the operation, change clothes, and be taken out into the corridor. For some time we waited in the corridor for the operating room to be prepared. Then I was invited to the table.
The operation does not begin immediately, first the doctors leave, apparently to rest a little, and time begins to drag on very slowly, this wait is simply terrifying. It was definitely easier for me with Seryoga. He encouraged me, we laughed and joked, he looked at the operating room with interest, for some time we were completely alone in the operating room. To distract ourselves a little, we took pictures and looked at all sorts of things.
Then the anesthesiologist came, put an injection in my back (it didn’t hurt), and slowly laid me on the operating table. Having my husband there when I couldn’t move my legs really calmed me down. And the fact that Anya was in his arms, and not lying alone on the changing table and crying. Seryoga was placed in a chair near my head, and during the operation I saw Seryoga and Anechka. You also know this better than any anesthesia and all sedatives combined. Anya in her dad's arms in the first minutes of her life. (see photo 3)
Second point: his conversation with me, his encouraging words helped a lot. Also, after the end of the operation, he gave me two half-liter bottles of water (mandatory for resuscitation, since drinking plenty of fluids helps to recover from anesthesia faster). Without it, I don’t know where I would have gotten it. My body below the stomach was behind the screen, so he did not see any intimate details.
So, Anya is in Seryoga’s arms in the first minutes after giving birth. In this photo, behind Seryoga is a diaper bag for a newborn baby, where he is examined by a neonatologist, weighed, measured, given an Apgar assessment, swaddled and handed over to his father. (see photo 4)
After the operation was completed, I was transferred to a wheelchair, the neonatologist took the baby, took him to the children's department, and they wheeled me to the intensive care unit. Here I am in intensive care 2 hours after the operation, I’m already sitting))) If you drink a lot of water, your legs begin to go away almost immediately. The photo shows some water in the background. (see photo 5)
At 18:07 I gave birth, at 21:00 my mother was brought to me for feeding. (see photo 7)
A nurse came with two gurneys with babies and said from the doorway that usually after her appearance everyone gets back on their feet and everything suddenly stops hurting. Babies for mothers are a real panacea. And she turned out to be right. So much strength appeared after I held my baby in my arms and fed her tit. Now my goal was to move away as quickly as possible and take her for myself.
I fed her and they took her away. All night long. Before going to bed, they gave us an anesthetic, removed the cottetor and made sure that we were able to walk to the toilet on our own. The first night I spent the night alone, resting. Well, I was resting, lying and looking out the window. There was no sleep at all. Maybe because of the anesthesia, or maybe because of the experience. And at 7:00 they brought it to me forever. Before we were taken down to the postpartum ward, we were visited by a whole army of doctors, a guard consultant and a delegation from the head physician, the head of the department and an anesthesiologist, the latter spoke in detail about the progress of each operation.
I went to the postpartum ward together with my neighbor in the intensive care unit; by the way, we were also discharged together. So the couple walked the whole way.
So in the delivery room: no panties or bra, by the way, it’s also better to leave jewelry at home, just a disposable nightie (they’ll give you one there) and stockings. Nothing else. No phone, nothing. The rest of the package will go to intensive care.
In the intensive care unit you will need: panties, a pad (it’s better to put them in your panties right away), a nightie, a robe, and slippers. The girls nurses in the intensive care unit will help you put on panties and a nightie. They are very smart, skillfully and quickly put them on their feet. In the intensive care unit, they will also give you a phone from the bag and turn it on for charging. You can accept congratulations. Well, a bottle of water, you won’t need anything else in the intensive care unit.
The rest of the package will go to the postpartum ward in the morning. Everything that is usually written in the lists for the maternity hospital is already there. Plus a dowry for the baby. Don’t take too much, remember, you will have to carry this bag on yourself several times.
Unfortunately, the food in the hospital is the same for everyone; not everything is suitable for nursing mothers. Therefore, I have a set of products that I took myself and recommend to all my girls for milk. Your husband will have to tell you when you are transferred to the ward; sliced loaf, butter, sliced cheese, disposable glasses and knives, bottled water, any tea, sugar. And every 3 hours you need to drink a mug of hot tea and sandwiches with cheese and butter. It helps a lot for lactation, much better than all the expensive teas combined. You can also have cottage cheese, you can have bananas and a little green apples. In general, nutrition at that time will be very important.
In the first days after giving birth, it will be very important to go to the toilet a lot. This will mean that the intestines have recovered from the operation and everything is fine. Doctors will directly ask whether you pooped or not. At the same time, as you yourself understand, it will be scary to even touch there, let alone push. It is for this occasion that you need to have candles glycerol. I installed it and everything went smoothly.
From the unpleasant moments of cesarean. After a natural birth, everything ends after pushing, sometimes they stitch up if there are tears, but then nothing hurts or worries. And after the operation, of course, the stitch hurts; in the hospital they give painkillers and oxytocin injections to contract the uterus. Oh, how I didn't like them. I was ready to endure the moderate aching pain of the suture rather than undergo these painful injections. I refused them several times. The very next day I started running after doctors to ask them to discharge us home. They laughed at me: Shemyakina, you were stunned, you just gave birth yesterday, have you gone crazy, what kind of discharge? But I still managed to persuade the doctor and we were discharged on the third day to go home to our men. Why I did this: firstly, our little man neighbor, unlike us, slept quite restlessly, and secondly, I madly missed my husband and son and my crib. And I have a fairly high pain threshold and I almost didn’t feel the stitch. Of course, it was a little difficult to get up, but that's bullshit. From the first night after giving birth, Anna was a good, calm baby, diligently suckling and sleeping; in between feedings, I didn’t know what to do with myself.
Well, that's the whole story. It seems like I didn’t miss anything, if you ask anything.
I am very pleased with my birth in the maternity hospital at the Central Clinical Hospital of Novosibirsk, although everything turned out completely differently than I expected. My husband and I planned to give birth together and prepared for it for a long time. Our wish was only half fulfilled - as much as an emergency caesarean section allowed...
And the birth of our child was a surprise. Of course, the appearance itself did not surprise anyone, but until the birth we did not know who would be born: a boy or a girl! Throughout my pregnancy, I was accompanied by an unshakable confidence that I was expecting a boy. Confidence was reinforced by the statement of the doctor who performed the ultrasound at 18 weeks: “Classic boy!” The child was named Innocent and, long before his appearance, was equipped with blue vests, overalls, etc. Imagine our surprise when, at the 35th week, another ultrasound doctor confidently said the exact opposite. In general, completely confused, for the last month and a half we no longer called the baby Kesha, but simply “child,” and were waiting for him not only with impatience, but also with intense interest.
The child's behavior was least like a girl's. Having started to move around the 14th week, the baby soon developed incredible activity: he loved to engage in rhythmic jumping for several minutes at a time, he learned to tickle his mother from the inside, making her jump in surprise; In recent months, my uterus has become something like a punching bag for the baby - with the difference that this bag was beaten from the inside. From my liver, the child made a training device for his small, but oh-so-hard heels. At the 9th month, these sensations were supplemented by unbearable skin itching. I really wanted to give birth, if only to stop itching.
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Comment on the article "Childbirth with my husband... And caesarean section"
After your story, I was left with the impression that it was better not to go to this maternity hospital: they gave you some kind of terrible anesthesia, you couldn’t find anyone at night, a contract doctor - but at the same time, after a CTG, and even a bad one, you yourself run around looking for doctors. Thank God that everything turned out okay with the baby and with you.
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I became pregnant with my second child after a decent amount of time, and from the very beginning of this pregnancy, I really wanted my husband to be with me at the difficult moment of childbirth. However, my husband did not share my idea.
I took a roundabout route, persuading him to take a course for pregnant women and fathers with me. We were lucky; the courses were taught by a very good and competent teacher. At the end of the course, my husband told me that now he knows everything and will come with me!
We agreed: he would be present only during the first stage of labor - contractions, and during the second stage he would come out and come in only when the baby was born.
But everything turned out a little differently.
When the contractions started, we immediately arrived at the maternity hospital, and I was admitted to the prenatal room. It wasn’t scary at all, since my beloved was nearby. I was the only one of the women in labor, so I paid attention to the honey. staff were not deprived.
While the contractions were tolerable, my husband and I just talked, and this was a great distraction from the pain. During the examination, the doctor said that the discovery was already quite good, and they praised me for my patience. When the contractions grew so intense that it became almost impossible to endure, my husband massaged my lower back and encouraged me, so the pain was much easier to bear.
But then everything didn’t go according to plan. At the next examination, the doctor said that when the baby was almost fully dilated, the baby’s head had been inserted incorrectly, and an emergency caesarean section was needed. My husband was a great guy, he calmly accepted everything that was said, and began to help me prepare for the operation. If it weren’t for my husband, I would probably have become hysterical, since surgery was my phobia. But seeing my husband’s outward calmness, I also calmed down.
They chose spinal anesthesia, so I was sane throughout the operation. It was very scary, the operation began, I was shaking, I wanted to cry, but then someone took my hand - it was my husband! He was allowed into the operating room!!! Throughout the entire operation he stood at the head of the bed, holding my hand, I was calm with him! When the baby was taken out, we heard his first cry together, and saw him together for the first time. Then they took the child away to treat him, and brought him to show me and put him to his chest - a happy and proud father of the child! The operation ended successfully and I was transferred to the ICU. For half a day my husband looked after me and brought our baby for feeding. He went home for the night.
I remember my birth, and I want to repeat such a wonderful moment, and always with my husband, only with my husband!!!
If you are thinking about whether to give birth together or not, I will tell you what you should both be prepared for:
- Childbirth is a very unpleasant process. The woman does not reveal herself in the best possible way: old torn shirts, constant examinations with the release of blood, mucus, water, urination into a pan next to the bed, and other “charms”. Yes, there may be other women in labor behind the wall, of course not so patient, but screaming and moaning for the entire maternity hospital to hear.
Conclusion 1: the relationship must be long enough and proven so that the woman can relax and fully concentrate on the process of childbirth. And the newly-made husband is unlikely to like such an unusual image of his beloved, who was previously considered ideal.
- Husbands can interfere with medical staff. The most harmless thing is when they simply get underfoot. But it may also be that a loving husband does not understand why his wife feels bad and is in pain, and the doctors “do nothing,” and begin a showdown with a raised voice out of nowhere, thereby distracting the doctor from the process of conducting childbirth. It may be necessary to carry out some emergency measures, during which husbands may also lose their heads (manifested either by aggression or fainting), and precious minutes to save the lives of the mother and child may be lost.
Conclusion 2: the husband should be calm and balanced. If necessary, be able to “dissolve.” And be sure to take childbirth preparation courses together with your spouse.
If all the conditions are met and the spouses come prepared, then the help of the child’s father is invaluable for the woman in labor!
So the decision to give birth together should be thoughtful, well-weighted and, of course, bilateral.
The birth of a baby is always a long-awaited happiness for parents, and more and more often men try to be close to their wife at the most crucial moment. Many women are often interested in whether a partner birth is possible during a caesarean section, because surgical intervention does not allow a stranger to appear in the operating room. The opinion of doctors on this matter is ambiguous - some experts believe that it is better for a man to be close to his wife, but most doctors are sure that the presence of a husband at a caesarean section will only do harm.
Can my husband or anyone else be present during a caesarean section?
Doctors' answers to the question of whether a husband can be present at a caesarean section differ sharply. When a child is born, the cavity is excised, so one of the main conditions for surgical intervention is sterility in the room. Until recently, outsiders were not allowed into the ward where abdominal surgery was performed.
Not so long ago, everything changed - some clinics began to practice partner caesarean section. A prerequisite is to conduct special research and consult a psychologist. Permission is given by the head physician only after he is confident that the spouse will endure such a test with dignity.
What you need to know
When planning a partner birth with a cesarean section, both spouses should prepare for surgical intervention. There are special trainings for married couples, where they teach behavior during childbirth, explain the features of the process, and provide mental preparation.
Before the surgical intervention itself, the husband is asked to visit a psychologist. You should not hide your fears or fears - it is better to tell a specialist everything in detail. The doctor will help you understand the sensations and make a firm decision about whether the man is fully ready for a difficult test. It often happens that before the birth itself, representatives of the stronger sex refuse to attend the operation.
The husband should also carefully understand the features of caring for the baby and the woman in labor. It is on the shoulders of the spouse that at first the responsibility for the health and well-being of the most dear people will fall.
It often happens that you have to do an emergency caesarean section; partner childbirth is strictly prohibited. A man is allowed to be outside the ward window, be the first to see the baby, even hold him in his arms, but only on the condition that the child was born healthy, without pathologies.
Do you want your husband to support you during the operation?
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What will you need immediately after surgery?
If a caesarean section is performed with a husband, the man usually undergoes special training that explains how to care for a child or woman in advance. The spouse is prohibited from lifting the baby - this will affect the condition of the seam. That is why the husband will have to take care of the child on his own.
The woman in labor also needs care - she is not allowed to rise for some time. The husband's responsibilities include feeding his wife and helping with physiological needs.
Which doctors will perform a caesarean section?
The participation of the spouse does not affect the composition of specialists during the operation.
If a woman does not have any special pathologies, the following are present in the ward:
- surgeon;
- anesthetist;
- obstetrician;
- assistants.
If a woman in labor experiences some complications, other specialists may be present for the operation.
Having found out whether the husband can be present at the caesarean section, and having received the consent of the head physician, the spouse should learn some rules that will have to be followed.
Among them:
- remain calm, especially during contractions - it is at this moment that the spouse needs his support;
- constantly communicate with your wife, distract her from the process;
- try to prevent the woman from panicking.
After the baby is born, if all goes well, the man can hold him in his arms, which, according to experts, creates an incredibly strong bond between parent and baby.
Progress of the operation
What features can be noted if a partner birth is carried out during a cesarean section, how are the main stages, are there any points that require special attention from the spouses?
Surgical intervention occurs according to the usual scheme:
- The woman in labor is injected with an anesthetic composition.
- The assistants put up a special screen that does not allow the woman and husband to observe the operation process.
- The husband remains near his wife's head, he is allowed to hold her hand and stroke her head.
- An excision of the abdominal cavity is performed.
- The surgeon takes the baby out and hands it over to the assistants.
- The excision is closed with sutures.
The last stage of surgery is to treat the incision with antiseptics.
After operation
If there are no complications, after some time the woman in labor is transported to the ward. The husband is allowed to be nearby at all times, but only if this has been agreed upon in advance with the doctors.
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Elena asks:
Is my husband allowed to be present during a caesarean section?
The presence of the husband during the birth of the child is called partner birth. It cannot be said that the attitude towards such births is the same everywhere. Some medical institutions actively promote partner childbirth, others are against it and agree to it only after persistent requests from young parents. But there are also maternity hospitals where the participation of a spouse in childbirth is not allowed. In this case, it does not matter how the child is born - naturally or through surgery.
In general, if a woman is undergoing epidural anesthesia and is conscious during the operation, her husband’s presence is not prohibited. But, nevertheless, in each individual case you should consult the maternity hospital in advance on this matter. Also important is the woman’s general condition before surgery, the urgency of the operation (planned or for urgent reasons), the type of anesthesia that will be used (general or local anesthesia), and the technical capabilities of the given maternity hospital.
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