How to find out if a man loves you: 10 phrases of a loving person + 20 signs of sincere love + 7 true signs (a man’s view of the problem).
We all want to love and be loved.
There are happy women who absolutely know that their significant other has sincere, deep feelings for them. But there are those who have to figure out what is hidden behind the beautiful words of their young man: love, lust, lies, emptiness.
How do you know if a man loves you or if a relationship with you is just a game for him? Ask directly? But it’s so easy to lie.
It is better to look not at words, but at actions. And also look for the right signs that will definitely indicate the strength and genuineness of feelings.
How do you know if a man loves you by his behavior, look and other signs?
To find out exactly what your man feels, you just need to take a closer look at him. Move aside for a while your own feelings that blur your view and analyze his actions, words, gestures, etc.
You will easily understand whether he loves you or not if you do not deceive yourself.
1) 10 phrases that men say when they love
- "I love you".
- “Let me introduce you to my friends/colleagues/family...”
- “You are the smartest, I am so lucky to meet you.”
- “How many children would you like to have?”
- “In the future, I plan...” (you are also in these plans).
- “I want you to know more about me.”
- "I'm afraid to disappoint you."
- “I miss you so much, even though we haven’t seen each other for only two days.”
- “I'm worried/worried about you.”
- “Dress warmly, it’s cold outside. Please have lunch, don't go hungry all day. I bought fruit and medicine at the pharmacy and am already on my way to you.”
Of course, phrases can be formed in other ways. But I think you understand the general meaning.
A man who loves will not:
- hide your feelings;
- hide you from friends and family;
- be indifferent to your health, well-being, mood;
- withdraw yourself in difficult moments of your life;
- don't care what you think about him;
- hide your past and plans for the future;
- look for excuses why you can't meet.
2) Actions of a man that will indicate that he loves you
If you come across a silent or stern man who says little but does a lot, do not rush to blame him for not loving you. Just analyze the young man’s actions, not his words.
Actions of a man who truly loves his woman:
- introduce her to his friends and relatives;
- will show where he lives and works;
- will try to introduce him to his hobby, etc.
- your light bulb has burned out;
- the shelf fell off;
- the electric kettle broke down;
- you don’t know how to get to your parents because on Friday evening all the buses are packed;
- you can’t solve problems with the housing office, etc.
This manifests itself both in small things (packing lunch in your purse after a hard day, feeding you dinner, throwing on your jacket when you are freezing in a light dress under the gusts of a cold wind), and in larger-scale actions: caring for you when you are sick, comfort when you lose a loved one, etc.
Involving you in your life.
A man who loves and wants a woman to become a part of his life, quickly:
This will allow him to spend more time with his beloved, and this is what every man in love strives for.
A man who loves doesn't even need to ask you to help. He listens to you carefully and reacts sensitively to phrases that:
The desire to help and make a woman’s life easier betrays a man in love.
The desire to please you.
He knows what yours are and regularly pleases you with bouquets. The same goes for sweets, favorite restaurants, movies, etc. He is not ashamed to arrange a romantic surprise for his beloved, prepare a delicious dinner, or pleasantly surprise her. He revels in your joy and is happy when you are happy.
You are an important part of his life.
A beloved woman occupies one of the main places in a man’s life, while a lady who is not loved is simply one of the components.
If you constantly feel on the sidelines, if he regularly sacrifices a date with you in order to go to a bar with friends, go fishing, take work for the weekend - there is no talk of any love.
3) 10 more additional signs that will indicate that a man loves you
- Looks full of love and a desire to admire you when he thinks that you don’t see it.
- The desire to share both sorrows and joys with you.
- An adequate response to your mood: the desire to console when you feel bad, maintaining cheerfulness when you feel good.
- Constant presence and desire to help when you are stressed, in a bad mood, depressed, during PMS, etc.
- The pride a man feels for your victories and achievements.
- Lack of selfishness in terms of sex and the desire to please the woman you love, and not just take care of your own satisfaction.
- Knowledge and understanding of your tastes, hobbies, likes, dislikes, allergies, etc.
- The value of your opinion for him is undeniable.
- A loving man will not take out his bad mood on you and pour out his problems on his head in order to throw out his anger, and not to get help or practical advice.
- The desire to please your friends and parents, to gain a foothold in your life and become an important part of it.
How to find out that a man does not love you, so as not to waste time on him?
We, women, are creatures of a different make-up than men, so we cannot always understand them.
In my female opinion, the easiest way to understand whether a man loves you or not is to simply feel it. If something confuses you in a relationship, if you don’t fully believe him, and even if you often ask yourself the question: “Does he love you or not?”, most likely there is no true love.
There is sympathy, affection, passion, perhaps love, but this is not enough to enter into a relationship with a man. Where is the guarantee that when you are already married, he will not meet someone he will love with all his soul?
But this is my, female view of the problem. And I would like to know what men think about this.
A male friend of mine, a psychologist by profession, told me several signs that will definitely indicate that a man does not love you:
He didn't change his habits, his traditional way of life, or his schedule because you showed up.
All you have been awarded is to take a free place between work, friends, family and hobbies.
He does not want to spend more time with you, see you more often, or talk a lot on the phone.
Excessive busyness does not excuse a man - if he loves, then he will have time for his beloved.
He is not afraid to offend you.
He simply doesn’t care that some careless words or actions can hurt you.
He doesn’t want to plan with you not only the distant future (family, children), but even a joint summer vacation.
He simply answers: “We’ll see, let’s live, then we’ll see, etc.”
You've caught the guy lying more than once.
There are two options here - either he is a pathological liar, or he simply doesn’t care about how you deal with lies. Neither the first nor the second option is an option for you.
He doesn't try to make your life easier or help you in difficult situations.
No, if you ask for help, you get it, but a man in love knows when to lend his shoulder.
He doesn't accept you for who you are.
A man who loves will not notice any female shortcomings at first; he will forgive even what previously irritated him.
Grinding in and smoothing of sharp corners occurs later. For example, I am an ardent opponent of smoking, I once dated a girl who smoked because I fell in love like a boy.
If he finds fault with you, tries to change you, adjust it to suit himself, he definitely doesn’t like you.
Loves – doesn’t love: find out, even if it hurts
Most women, at least once in their lives, have found themselves captive in a debilitating relationship...
I’m not talking now about any kind of violence or connection with the disadvantaged marginalized. I'm talking about relationships that seem to develop logically and bring pleasure, but there is no belief that they will end in something good.
This usually happens when we doubt that we are loved. I was in such a relationship once.
Dima and I met for six months while still at the university. A nice guy, well-mannered, with many positive character traits, purposeful (even in his second year he started working part-time to have his own money), etc.
He treated me wonderfully: he arranged dates, gave me flowers and nice presents, and paid compliments. In general, a good candidate for the role of a soul mate. But something was missing in our relationship. It was only later that I realized that there was not enough love.
No, I loved Dima (well, or at the time I thought I did), but I wasn’t sure of his feelings, although I received several regular “I love you”s. I always wanted to know how he felt about me. This is what exhausted me mentally and did not allow me to relax
How did I manage to find out that Dima still doesn’t love me? I took off my rose-colored glasses and really looked at the attitude towards me. Here's what confused me:
- He didn't show genuine concern when I was sick or dealing with some problems.
- The man was never upset when our date was postponed for some reason.
- Even in the most intimate moments, Dima remained distant - it seemed like he didn’t care whether I was next to him or someone else.
- The guy paid too much attention to other girls - and it wasn’t the quick, meaningless glance that all men give at attractive girls, it was an assessment: whether she would be a good replacement for me or not.
- I felt like he was lying to me when he talked about his feelings.
We broke up on Valentine's Day. During a romantic dinner, we started talking about feelings. I jokingly asked why Dima was spending this day with me and not with another girl and heard the answer: “Well, I love you.”
And these innermost words sounded like: “Well, I bought a jacket without thinking, now I have to wear it, even though I’m not delighted with it.” And I decided to get the truth from my young man.
We talked for a long time and for the first time sincerely. Over the course of the evening, I still managed to find out that Dima, although he considers me wonderful, does not truly love me.
He felt guilty and tried to persuade me to wait, saying that feelings would come, but I didn’t want to.
Yes, it was painful, yes, leaving him was a difficult decision, but I did not regret that I had achieved such important recognition for myself.
How to find out whether a man loves you or not?
First you need to watch this video:
My advice to you: if you think how to know if a man loves you, think about what you will do if he says: “I don’t love you.” If you are ready for the truth (even bitter), then seek sincere confession. If not, leave everything as it is. It is quite possible that sooner or later he will still love you.
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Falling in love, the bright beginning of a relationship, the time of courtship - hormones play in the body, and the whole world seems kind and joyful. But time passes, and instead of the former delight, fatigue from the relationship appears. Only the shortcomings of the chosen one are striking, and you have to ask not the heart, but the mind: “How can you tell if you love your husband?”
How to make sure whether a wife loves her husband
To understand your attitude towards your husband, you need to understand what you are ready for for him. What troubles and misfortunes will you go through together, shoulder to shoulder? Below are a series of questions that require a yes or no answer:
- Can you trust this person with your life?
- Will you allow me to make important decisions for you?
- If he gets sick, will you be able to give away a kidney or part of his liver so that he can live?
- Would you give your life for your loved one?
- Are you ready to be with him if he ends up in a wheelchair, to care for him and support him in difficult times?
- Are you ready to see this person every day of your life?
- After spending time apart (for example, a month), will you miss, yearn for your husband and wait for his return?
If you answered yes to all these questions or most of them, then this is really love, and you should think about connecting your whole life with this person.
Rethinking Relationships
Most often, a woman asks the question: “How can I tell if I love him?” at the moment when the partners' feelings become dull. A person gets used to what surrounds him, and over time begins to see only shortcomings in his partner. In such a situation, you won’t immediately remember why you wanted your husband to always love you. Doubts about feelings can appear in two cases:
- Selfishness. So, a husband can be a wonderful person and a family man, but instead of love, there is emptiness in his wife’s soul. Then it’s worth thinking about how much effort is put into maintaining relationships. After all, sometimes a woman only expects something from her husband, forgetting that giving her partner attention is even more pleasant than receiving it.
- Grievances. It happens that the husband accumulates a large number of reasons for apologies, and then doubts arise about the feelings he experiences. It's not so easy to love when you expect an apology. In this case, you need to decide for yourself whether your husband deserves your love. And also remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. If he was able to win your feelings, then are his small mistakes and mistakes so important?
How to check if you love your husband
These simple actions will help you understand how strong your feelings for your partner are:
- Understand your emotions. Is the situation really that serious or is it just a short-term moral devastation? We all have bad days when it’s so bad that you don’t want to see anyone around. And you need to understand the difference between momentary annoyance with your husband and serious problems in the relationship.
- Decide what love means to you. You may have previously thought it was a strong heartbeat and sweaty palms. It happens that, having moved to a new stage of a relationship, people mistakenly consider this as a cooling of old feelings. But for many married couples, love is finding peace and tranquility next to your partner.
- Remember why you fell in love with your husband. There were reasons for marriage, and now you just need to remember the first dates and the emotions experienced, conversations and plans for the future. This way you can understand what is now missing in your relationship and fix it.
- Imagine that your husband has disappeared from your life. What would it be like then? Yes, you still have family and friends, you have more time for hobbies and friends, but are you ready to live with emptiness where before he was always there?
What a married woman should remember
If a long relationship in marriage has begun to turn into a routine, then you should think about whether it was your fault. A good relationship requires effort on the part of both partners, but it happens that a woman lets problems that arise in marriage take their course, and then asks the question: “How can you tell if you love your husband?”
Listen to your partner. Men and women show their emotions differently, so your husband may not understand that you expect him to do something. Or he simply does not voice his opinion about family problems. You need to pay attention to your partner and talk directly about the relationship, improving it together.
He is not you. So, your husband's point of view may differ from yours. Try to look at the problem through your husband's eyes. Perhaps he has no idea that you are asking the question: “How can you tell if you love your husband?” and doubt your own feelings.
Don't live in illusions. Each family has its own ideal marriage, so you don’t need to look at your friends and adapt to their relationships. Start appreciating what you two are creating for your future.
Family is the whole world. By forming a family, you and your husband create your own space where you will be safe. No matter what difficulties befall a person, the mere knowledge that there is a place where they will be supported already gives strength. Therefore, it is worth fighting for your family and finding ways to solve the problem without destroying the already created relationships.
It's not always easy to know if you really love someone. But if you think that you cannot live without him, if he is more important than your own interests, then these are real feelings.
At the beginning of a relationship, there is love. These are the most vivid sensations in terms of emotions. When you want to do everything for the sake of your loved one. Often in this love we dissolve in our partners and forget about ourselves. This stage of a relationship is wonderful with strong impulses and strong emotions. It seems that life is gaining momentum. The body reacts in such a way that we begin to acutely feel even the slightest nuances of our mood, and the strength to change ourselves appears. This is a very energetically charged stage. But time passes. And our psyche adapts to strong stimuli. The hormonal background calms down and there is a lull.
This inner silence seems so unusual and calm that you can be deluded and decide that feelings have faded away and there is no more love. But the fact is that true love has not yet existed. And there will still be many years of grinding in and forming a real view of the object of adoration.
When love passes, the illusory image of the loved one goes with it. He no longer seems like a “god”, he, just like everyone else, can swear, be dissatisfied with something, be lazy, irresponsible, plunge into his fears and disappoint us.
This is normal in relationships. Few people can immediately look at a person realistically. Yes, and we ourselves deliberately, wanting to be liked, create an image of ourselves, and do not show all our pros and cons. This creates a certain tension, which over time leads to us relaxing and no longer hiding our characteristics.
And then came the moment of disappointment. It is important to maintain this new image. Accept him and continue the relationship. Couples often break up at this stage, because the disappointment is so strong that it cannot be survived. But again, we ourselves play a major role in creating an unrealistic image. And we are also responsible for the destruction of illusions.
When the stage of disappointment passes, the moment of acceptance comes. And here the couple’s task is to learn to live with each other in real images. After all, now these are completely different people who have just lifted the veil of their own mystery.
There comes a moment of acceptance, which then leads to a very calm relationship. There is no longer a need to receive feedback, to respond to impulses and expectations every time. Spouses accept each other as they are. Everything that happens in a relationship is done not because I want to please my other half, but simply because I myself want to. This is a very calm life.
Over time, when people have learned to be with each other, accept and come to terms with some of each other’s characteristics, their relationships become even closer. There are no longer any taboo topics, everything is clean, transparent and open. You can calmly joke and discuss some issues. In this case, there is a feeling of close friendship.
And only after that love is formed. At this stage, a lot becomes clear. The spouses feel each other. This is a deep, true and close contact. There is no longer any question of illusions and expectations. If something is given away, it is completely free of charge.
Not every couple reaches the final stage. Often relationships end at the first stage of falling in love. When it is absolutely impossible to give up illusions and accept the reality of a loved one.
To understand whether love exists, think about these questions:
1. What stage of the relationship am I at now?
2. What does love mean to me?
3. How do I understand what I love? How do I understand that they love me?
4. Do I really perceive my loved one?
5. What illusions still cause me pain?
6. Can I refuse them?
Love is often confused with being in love. After all, falling in love is so strong in its emotional charge that it becomes almost tangible. And love is so calm and natural that it often seems like a simple routine. But in fact, it is love that captivates with its depth and sincerity.
Anna Baranova, a psychologist, consultant and head of the Personal Development Center "Life&art", understood the situation.
Love. How many feelings and emotions are associated with this simple word. Every person. There are so many people, so many varieties of love in our world. After all, everyone feels and sees it in their own colors and shades, and as a result, not everyone knows how to understand whether you love a person or not? After all, people sometimes cannot describe this feeling in words, cannot draw it in a picture, cannot play a musical instrument, cannot dance... And if someone managed to do this, they showed only a small part of their great feeling.
How to understand that you truly love someone
¨ Excitement. When a loving person appears, you begin to worry for no reason. As a result, you may drop your cup or see your hands shaking wildly. You can't string words together into one sentence;
¨ Skin pigmentation. Without knowing it, you may feel awkward and blush. Even standing in a cool room. But each person has individual skin pigmentation and its manifestations are individual. Your cheeks may turn red, only your ears may turn red, or, on the contrary, you may turn pale in front of everyone;
¨ Conversations and thoughts. Don't know how to understand whether you love a person? You are in love if you constantly talk about your object of adoration. His image does not leave your thoughts. When you try on this or that outfit, you definitely think about whether he will like it. Imagine different situations with your participation in the main role;
communication. When you talk to him, you like his voice. You write to him very often, sometimes even too much. You expect a response to the stupidest messages, even those that have no text. In conversation you often use the word “We” rather than “I” and “he”. It's rare to call him by his name. “Trying on” his last name;
¨ Magnet. You are completely, completely, constantly drawn to him. You can tell whether you love a person by the fact that you always strive to be where he is. You often meet “by chance” in different places. Sometimes you just don’t understand how this meeting could happen, but your heart knows which paths to take;
¨ Recoil. You want to give everything to your loved one. Nothing worries you except your general happiness and its pleasure. You are ready to make any sacrifice for the sake of well-being in a relationship, and you react to any of his whims with dignity.
You can understand that you love a person with the help of folk wisdom. One of them says that when people are in love, they often quarrel, but when they are in love, quarrels become a rare occurrence. It takes a lot of strength for love to remain in your hearts, but even more strength is needed to recognize this love. Don't miss the chance to love the one and only person who will become your whole world. Love and be loved!
How to understand what it is: love, sympathy or infatuation?
If you ask any person what the word “love” means, there will probably be a great many definitions for this word. Love can define one’s attitude toward one’s homeland, one’s favorite food, surrounding objects, favorite animals, and so on. However, the most common association with the word “love” is the emotional state of a person and the manifestation of feelings. It is difficult to understand whether you love a person. Love or habit? Sympathy or passion?
Sympathy
You can feel sympathy for a long time, but it is more typical for friends. That is why you need to decide on what exactly your love for your chosen one is based. Do you have a willingness to support a person, to help him in difficult moments of life? If you have common interests and worldviews, you will probably feel sympathy for the person, which can then develop into something more serious.
Sexual attraction
If you feel that in the presence of your chosen one you are experiencing sexual attraction and are excited, then most likely you are burning with passionate love for him and you have to understand that you love the person or not. Most often, love is a consequence of the search for something new, bright emotions and adventures.
Set of common interests
The combination of common interests and sexual attraction most likely indicates that you feel romantic love for your chosen one. This is the most wonderful period of a relationship, but, as practice shows, only young couples can have such a long period.
In a serious relationship, passion is far from the leading emotion. The level of your desire will help you understand that you love a person or not yet. It would be absurd for you to confess your love to a person just because you are sexually attracted to him. This kind of “love” does not bode well. For the sake of bliss in bed, you will have to endure literally everything from your loved one.
Friends, lovers and like-minded people at the same time
As you know, there is no love without friendship. Therefore, for true love it is very important to become a friend, lover and ally to your partner at the same time. Moreover, the desire to become more than lovers must be mutual. The desire for eternal love, when partners are ready to keep it forever - this is true love.
Addiction
How can you understand whether you love a person and not become dependent on that person? One must be able to avoid emotional sadism. If you think that at least someone must be next to you, these are signs of false love.
Jealousy
Jealousy never leads to real feelings. Jealous people for the most part are just egoists who want to dominate their partner.
How to understand that this is love
Aristotle offered a profound analysis of love. He knew how to understand that you love a person. When we experience happiness from the presence of another person, he said, it is simply a disposition towards him. True love occurs when we long for someone who is absent and want that person to be there. Further, true love is expressed in both affection and intimate relationships, not just affection alone.
Love is a psychologically important need. If you were to count how many hours people spend making themselves attractive to the opposite sex by flirting, dating, courting, arranging marriages, having sex and dreaming about love or sex, it would add up to a significant percentage of many people's lives . If you add listening to music, looking at works of art and admiring beauty, then this share would be much higher.
You can tell if you love a person through sexual desire. Freud said that inside every person there is an animal that contains within itself the impulses characteristic of animals for unbridled sex. If the animal inside us were ever to break free, it would end in chaos and the destruction of society.
How to appreciate your love
Our test will help you understand whether you love a person or not. Your need for love is very high if any of the following statements are fundamentally true:
1. To achieve love, you spend a significant amount of time compared to friends of about the same age.
2. You have had many sexual encounters with many partners.
3. You find it difficult to control your sexual impulses.
4. Compared to most people you know, you devote much more time to communicating with beauty.
Your need for love is low if any of the following statements are true in principle:
1. You spend little time having sex or thinking about it.
2. You believe sex is disgusting.
Love is an extremely subjective feeling and concept, but everyone who has fallen into its network can confidently say that there is nothing more beautiful and desirable in the world. However, how not to be mistaken in your feelings and recognize the first “symptoms” of love fever? It's no secret that infatuation, infatuation, passion and love have similar characteristics. And it is extremely difficult to see the difference, because the difference lies deep inside us. How to understand whether you still love a person or not? Let's answer a few important questions and understand what is hidden behind the irresistible craving for the chosen one.
First of all, you need to think about why this question arose in the first place. Where did this idea come from? It's quite simple. At the beginning of a relationship, when the candy-bouquet romance “blooms and smells,” the girl or guy does not doubt their own feelings at all - we are firmly convinced that we love this person!
However, after a few months (or weeks), the rose-colored glasses fall off, and the lover begins to wonder how much his chosen one corresponds to the ideal. Are emotions real? Maybe it's just sympathy? In this case, feelings fade into the background, and the calculating mind is in the center. He seeks to cool the fervor of our emotions, taking care, among other things, of a heart that may break. The voice of reason is a good phenomenon, indicating a healthy human psyche.
The concept of “love” is unique and individual, since everyone loves in their own way. However, common features are common to all people without exception: love is something good, warm, expensive, associated with a feeling of comfort when your chosen one is nearby.
Signs of love
Finding out whether you really love a person is not always easy or simple. What to do? Take off your rose-colored glasses and try to look at your own relationships from the outside with maximum honesty. There is no need to listen to friends and “well-wishers”! So, the symptoms of true love:
- Unselfishness. True love is a selfless feeling. If a man or woman is looking for benefits, constantly waiting for the chosen one to do something for him or, especially, help him financially, there is no need to talk about love. These are not emotions, but use.
- Sexual attraction. Can true love exist without sex? It’s difficult to say, since everyone hears about so-called platonic love, which does not imply physical contact. However, many psychologists are confident that love is always combined with sexual attraction, which is completely natural. Along with the desire to possess, a person in love wants to see and hear the chosen one, to be close just like that, not because of the satisfaction of “animal” instincts.
- Unconditional acceptance. To love is to accept a partner with all his advantages and disadvantages. A person in love does not seek to remake the chosen one to suit his patterns. Do you want to change something about your dear friend? Most likely, this is not love.
- Confidence. The ability to trust a loved one is an important indicator of true love. If you are used to sharing your problems and joys with your partner, you are not afraid that you will not be understood or laughed at, this is SHE. Incomplete trust is one of the signs that you still do not love this person.
- Consistency. True love differs from falling in love in that it is not influenced by any external circumstances. For example, if relatives and friends oppose the chosen one, a loving person will defend his opinion and feelings. In addition, real emotions do not change plus to minus, even if the partner turned out to be far from perfect.
- Sacrifice. Love implies the willingness to sacrifice oneself for the sake of the one whom the heart considers the best person in the world. Sacrifice does not imply the desire to receive anything in return, the most important thing is moral satisfaction from the happiness of a loved one.
Several ways to understand if you are in love
Of course, we would need some kind of indicator that would allow us to determine whether it is love or not. However, wise scientists have not yet invented such a device, which is why we will “identify” interest, affection, sex, sympathy and love according to certain signs and parameters.
Method No. 1. Test
Can't understand your own experiences and feelings? Answer a few simple questions:
- Do you think about him (her) before falling asleep, do you want to wish him pleasant dreams?
- Are you trying to make him happy?
- Do you feel good and calm next to your chosen one?
- When you think about him, smile, blush and get excited?
- Are you counting the hours until you meet him?
- Do you consider him the best man (woman)
- You know about all his shortcomings, but continue to accept him for who he is?
- Does being separated from him for a long time worry you?
If you answered a confident “yes” to all the questions, congratulations, your feelings are sincere. If you feel unsure about the answers, it’s worth thinking about it. Remember that the test should be taken in your normal state, avoiding special joys and quarrels.
Method number 2. Pros and cons
A common psychological method is to divide a sheet of paper into two columns and write down the positive and negative qualities of your chosen one. This way you can get your real attitude towards him and a vision of his personality.
Analyze the number of pros and cons. What is your loved one made of? Advantages or disadvantages? The predominance of positive qualities is another joyful evidence of your love and good attitude towards your partner.
Method number 3. Meditation
It is more comfortable to sit in a soft chair, on a carpet that is pleasant to your body - you will have to spend half an hour on it. In addition, there should be no distractions or extraneous thoughts. It is easier to enter a “trance” by focusing on your own breathing.
Having calmed down and detached yourself from extraneous thoughts, imagine this person. Happened? How do you feel? Do you want to come up, kiss, hug, or run away? Decide on all your feelings (negative and positive) that arise when the image of your loved one appears.
Method number 4. “He is no more”
Quite a cruel, but effective technique. Try to imagine that your chosen one is no longer with you (no need to get hung up on this idea). Or perhaps you've never dated at all. What are you thinking about? Are such representations comfortable? Or perhaps they only bring you pain and discomfort? We understand the significance of a thing or person when we no longer possess it. The result of reflection will be an understanding of what feelings you have for your chosen one.
Love or affection?
Another common question: how can you understand whether you love a person or is it just affection? First of all, you need to understand that pure relationships and emotions are almost never found. Love, jealousy, sexual attraction, desire, affection - we experience all this at the same time, but only in different proportions.
As we said above, selfless care is considered an important sign of true love. Attachment is considered a kind of psychological dependence on a chosen one or partner.
The main feature of attachment is not selflessness and happiness, but dependence and sometimes the suffering that a dependent person experiences. If attachment is accompanied by special feelings that deprive a person of freedom, we can talk about psychological obsession.
So, understanding your true emotions and experiences is sometimes quite difficult. But if you are firmly convinced of the correctness of your own choice, you should not doubt your chosen one. Love is the most beautiful feeling that should be enjoyed, especially if it is mutual. Love and be loved!
